Presence: It's about Time

"...But because truly being here is so much; because everything here apparently needs us, this fleeting world, which in some strange way keeps calling to us.  Us, the most fleeting of all..." 

--Rainer Maria Rilke

Many of us regularly travel by air through different time zones, mindfully orienting ourselves to the time of our departures and arrivals at our various destinations, sometimes feeling like it takes awhile to truly arrive, body, mind, and spirit. When we fly, we are particularly attentive to the condition and experience of traveling through time. We navigate clock time—Pacific time, Mountain time, Central time, Eastern time, Atlantic time. We set our watches and schedules, adapting our sleep, meals, and meetings, so we can be on time wherever we are in time. Some of us even have watches that display multiple time zones, so we can more easily attend to the different time zones that constitute our worlds.

Yet, how many of us recognize that we are always traveling through time, experiencing different time zones from moment to moment? At any given moment, we are experiencing the multi-faceted nature of time—simultaneously traveling through past, present, and future, then, now, later, before, after, navigating digital time, analog time, calendar time, biorhythmic time, seasonal time, daytime, nighttime, dream time. We experience the elasticity of time, living years that pass in the blink of an eye, and minutes that hold eternity, and encounters that even seem to transcend time, depending on our experience of the moment. Our history and our potential are present in every instant.

Here's a thought experiment:

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The Bright Door...

Another marvelous post entitled "The Source of Rainbows" by Bob Brady at PureLand Mountain...

"It comes to me in the knife-edge cold of the winter night, out here on the deck for one last look at the stars before sleep, that what we all need, what we all seek in the streets and rooms, meadows and museums of our ways, is a place to wonder. Not to be taught, but to wonder. Not to be told, but to wonder: completely from and by ourselves. Where are those places but out in the nature of things, as out in the winter beneath the stars without explanation? Where but in the sudden realization of how remote we are in the vastness we are one with, and in that wall of sudden awareness discover the bright door that opens in ourselves; then to walk through..."

Participant-centered Design: How to Design Events Worth Attending

Whenever I get asked to do a presentation, I always have mixed thoughts.  I’m grateful that someone values my perspective enough to invite me to share it, but I’m also concerned that people will expect me to do all the talking.  Most people who know me well will tell you that I consider myself to be less of a public speaker and more of a conversation-starter.  I enjoy presentations if they catalyze meaningful conversation and action, but I prefer more participant-centered events.

If you look up monologue in the dictionary, you will find the following definition: a long speech monopolizing conversation.  Dialogue, on the other hand refers to a conversation between two or more persons; an exchange of ideas and opinions.  There’s no denying that monological presentations can be useful for setting contexts, delivering content, and providing passive entertainment (assuming the speaker is entertaining), but they can also suck the life out of a group of otherwise engaging people more quickly than a leech at a blood-letting. 

Most of us have had the unfortunate experience of sitting through a well-intended, but counting-the-seconds-until-it’s-over, mind-numbing presentation—and when the folks attending to the “butts-in-seats,” haven’t been as attentive to the comfort of the butts-in-seats—even butt-numbing presentation.  Some of us have even had the unfortunate experience of delivering the well-intended, mind-numbing, butt-numbing presentation (so, so sorry). 

As one such person, I've learned a lot over the years (as I continue to learn) about how to design and facilitate interesting, engaging participant experiences.  I imagine much of what I have to say on the subject is nothing new.  However, I am still amazed at the number of well-intended, well-attended events that deliver a less-than-optimal participant experience than was possible with a little more skillful design and facilitation, so I offer what follows as a conversation-starter for anyone involved in designing and/or facilitating events large or small with full appreciation for just how challenging it can be to create an event that not only fulfills its purpose, but actually inspires, the majority of participants. 

Obviously, there are numerous aspects involved in producing a great event, and numerous kinds of events from social gatherings to fundraisers to workshops and conferences.  What most interests me for the purpose of this exploration is attempting to articulate practical, guiding principles that increase the probability that participants will have a great experience at any organized event, although my examples usually assume larger events.  When I speak of “participants,” I am most often referring to those whose primary role is to attend and participate in the event, although in the broadest sense, all who participate in an event as sponsors, speakers, facilitators, volunteers, etc. are also participants.

The number of “butts-in-seats,” though an important, if somewhat crudely stated, success measure, matters less to me than the quality of the participants’ experience.  In fact, I suspect that the more we attend to the participant experience as the most essential part of our design and facilitation, the more likely it is that they will attend our events. 

And so, without further ado, I invite you to pause and ponder…to enquire and share…  And of course, do make yourself comfortable... Here are a few thoughts about how to increase the likelihood that participants will have a great experience.

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The Miniature Earth...

If there are only 100 people on Earth, how might we describe our world? 

Thanks to Michele Costa for sharing The Miniature Earth with me, a thought experiment and slideshow based on the work of the late Donella Meadows that places global issues in the context of a world populated by only 100 people. 

If there are only 100 people on the planet:

* 43 live without basic sanitation
* 18 live without an improved water source
* 6 people own 59% of the entire wealth of the community
* 13 are malnourished or hungry
* 14 can't read
* only 7 are educated at a secondary level
* only 12 have a computer
* only 3 have an internet connection
* the village spends more than US$1.12 trillion on military expenditures and only US$100 billion on development aid
* if you keep your food in a refrigerator, your clothes in a closet, if you have a bed to sleep in, and a roof over your head you are richer than 75% of the entire world population
* if you have a bank account you're one of the 30 wealthiest people in the world
* 18 struggle to live on US$1.00 per day or less
* 53 struggle to live on US$2.00 per day or less

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Conspicuous Contentment

To live content with small means, to seek elegance rather than luxury, and refinement rather than fashion, to be worthy, not respectable, and wealthy, not rich, to study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly, to listen to stars and birds, to babes and sages, with open heart, to bear all cheerfully, do all bravely, await occasions, hurry never, in a word to let the spiritual, unbidden and unconscious, grow up through the common, this is to be my symphony
- William Ellery Channing


Nine requisites for contented living:
Health enough to make work a pleasure. Wealth enough to support your needs. Strength enough to battle with difficulties and overcome them. Grace enough to confess your sins and forsake them. Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished. Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor. Love enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others. Faith enough to make real the things of God. Hope enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future
-
Goethe 

I like stuff as much as the next person, maybe more than some; less than many, but lately I've been wondering what it would be like to live in a culture of conspicuous contentment rather than conspicuous consumption...

At the heart of the average American discontent is an unquenchable desire for more--to have more, do more, be more... We want more money, more time, more meaning, more connection.  We want more of what matters—and of course, what matters is often in flux.  But the wanting—well, that seems to be constant.   

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How Naked Are You Prepared to Be?

How naked are you prepared to be?  asks Dominic Miller in The Balls to Stand Naked (http://www.monday9am.tv/archive/play/29), an inspiring short film by Nic Askew.  In the film, world-class guitar player, Dominic, inquires into the meaning of life, offering a personal perspective on what happens when we arrive--when we achieve a certain level of success in the world--and muses about the power of our own nakedness--of truly being who we are... 

Remember Come As You Are parties where people were invited to come in whatever clothing they happened to be wearing at the time of the event?  A cultural novelty of bygone times, people were welcome to arrive in anything from business suits to birthday suits.  Although the events were often used as opportunities to dress in the wackiest clothes imaginable, the parties were an invitation for people to get together without having to worry about appearances, often stretching the bounds of social convention and proscribed self-conceptions.  The underlying concept was that people could come together with fewer pretenses, free to express themselves without the judgment present in everyday experience.

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The Answers to our Prayers

Namaste... sanskrit word and Hindu greeting most literally translated as "I bow to you," meaning the divine within me recognizes the divine within you.

He drew a circle that shut me out--
Rebel, heretic, thing to flout.
But love and I had the wit to win.
We drew a circle that took him in.
                    Edwin Markham

About seven years ago, on my daily commute, I passed a woman from my neighborhood walking her dog.  As our paths crossed on the sidewalk, I smiled and said, "hello."  She glared at me and said nothing.  I figured that she was just having a bad day, and let it pass--until the next day, when the same thing happened.  I smiled and said hello.  She glared at me and said nothing. 

Shocked and more than a little miffed by her obvious lack of common courtesy, I carried that glare and the self-righteousness it inspired within me most of the day.  I mean, I didn't necessarily expect a response, but glaring at me for saying hello seemed downright rude. 

The next morning, having benefited from some quiet reflection and a good's night sleep, I thought that perhaps my greeting disturbed her morning solitude.  After all, I'm an introvert who can appreciate Sartre's oft-quoted maxim, "hell is other people at breakfast"--or "greeting me during my morning walk," as the case may be, so when we passed, I said nothing.  She glared at meAgain.  I was shocked. 

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Yoga: The Original Integral Practice

“The principle of Yoga is the turning of one or of all powers of our human existence into a means of reaching divine Being…” Sri Aurobindo

"You cannot do yoga. Yoga is your natural state. What you can do are yoga exercises, which may reveal to you where you are resisting your natural state." Sharon Gannon

"Yoga, an ancient but perfect science, deals with the evolution of humanity. This evolution includes all aspects of one's being, from bodily health to self-realization. Yoga means union - the union of body with consciousness and consciousness with the soul." B.K.S. Iyengar

In all of the excitement about integral practice (not just the one in a kit, but the whole kit and caboodle), it seems to me that yoga—fully practiced beyond the reductionist emphasis on Hatha-yogic postures—serves this rather well. As a yoga practitioner for the last twenty years, I have found that yoga fulfills what most people seem to be seeking in this quest for integral practice—a comprehensive method for engaging Spirit in our lives.

Maybe I’m an integral Luddite [grin], but I love being part of such a rich, global tradition exemplifying five thousand years or so of practice, especially one that requires so little—a willing body, heart, and mind. No bells (dumb or otherwise, but if you're into gear, there's no shortage of mats and straps and props for you), no whistles (although with practice you’re likely to hear the sounds of the universe, the music of the spheres). Wireless and portable. Pure simplicity with enough complexity to continue to evolve through centuries of practice.

I’ve taken it with me around the world and it’s never failed me. That said, I appreciate any offering that inspires people to embrace Spirit in the world—and I have even been known to lift a weight or two with some regularity. So without dismissing the value of ITP, ILP and other more recent self-transformative endeavors, I simply invite you to consider the relevance of what came before by offering this relatively brief and decidedly un-academic introduction to what may be the most useful and original integral practice that I know: yoga.

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Drenched in beautiful light...

Manda315_3_2Thanks, Thomas for sending this beautiful bit of brilliance to me...

Birthday Wish

I've always loved this excerpt from Jacob Needleman's A Little Book on Love....

..We are born for meaning, not pleasure, unless it is pleasure that is steeped in meaning.  And we are born as well for suffering, not the suffering that leads to madness but the suffering that leads to joy: the struggle with ourselves and our illusions.  We are born to overcome ourselves, and through that overcoming to find an inner condition of great harmony and being.  We are born for that--we are not yet that.  We are searchers; that is the essence of our present humanness.

And in love we have the possibility and the need to help each other search...

Here's to another year of meaningful suffering and joy...may we all embrace the possibility and the need to help each other search...